30 Tips that GAP year parents wished they knew at the start of the year
We're part of an amazing Facebook group called "Israel Gap Year Parents". We put a simple question on the group: "To parents who already sent a child on GAP year... Give 3 tips to new GAP year parents that you wish someone would have told you before..."
They came up with some fabulous tips and we've consolidated them here for you in this short guide. Thanks to all the fantastic parents who contributed to this article!
Let your child figure things out
Talk weekly not daily.
Learn how to be as hands off as possible - let them experience not just the year, but the ups and downs of their first true experience away from home.
When you speak to them, let them talk - they probably want someone they trust outside of their current context to listen to them (just because their complaining doesn't necessarily mean they need you to intervene).
Your child is an adult - Trust that you raised them right.
Encourage them to experience Israel as much as possible - even outside of school. Have them explore and learn to soak up the true Israel experience.
Let your child make decisions and remember, everything has a learning curve.
Don’t overpack. They need less than you think they do, they can do laundry and Israel is a modern country!
Girls need three pairs of shoes. For hiking, for Shabbat and for lounging. Not 15. (Try convincing an 18 year old of this)
Send extra socks and underwear.
Don't underestimate the cold - pack for cold weather.
Pack less of the things that they can buy there and more of the things that they can't get there.
Give them a budget
Set your child a budget, leave wiggle room, and adjust your expectation that they'll stick to it.
Do not give them access to all their spending money at once. They are perhaps not savvy enough to space it out over the year and you will want to have plenty for breaks.
Keep an eye on the credit card bills. Not just how much but what the money is being spent on - It’s a good way to see what your child is up to…
Make sure they have a debit and a credit card for emergencies.
Set up a Venmo account before your child leaves the US - a lot of times if a friend orders dinner, orders a cab, or if things are split, the best way to pay it back is Venmo.
Stay sane as a parent
Turn off notifications while you sleep. My daughter called once at 3 am my time for input on her grocery shopping.
Remember to breathe. This time allows them to grow up.
If they call bugging out remember that they'll be over it faster than you will.
You are 1000's of miles away and the news here is often more dramatic than things actually are.
WhatsApp = Life
WhatsApp is all you need to communicate. You don’t need to pay extra for an American phone number. You just need data.
Remember to unlock their phones.
Back up their phones before they leave in case they lose them.
Try to coordinate with the school if you're planning on visiting. You don't want to visit and pull them out of a trip or shabbaton.
Bring an extra pair of glasses.
If you want to make friends fast, cook for them. Teens are always starving. Son got a hot plate and a pot, made a big bowl of chicken soup on the first Thursday night, and had a line out the door.
It can take a few months to really fully settle down... things will happen.
Book Depository is an inexpensive way to send English language books to Israel.
Relax and enjoy
Enjoy the year they are away!!
Relax. Don't Worry. Be Happy... our kids had amazing GAP Year experiences and came home better than when we sent them.
We hope you’ve enjoyed this article. At Pack for Israel we provide everything you need for your gap year in Israel. You can order bedding and towels, small appliances, toiletries, storage accessories, and more that will ship directly to your school in Israel. We also have years of experience serving customers whose children go to Israel for the year, so if you have any questions please contact us and we’ll be glad to help. Happy Packing!